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My boyfriend still sleeps with his ex!

by Susan Quilliam

question
I've been seeing my partner for 10 months. He lives with his ex-girlfriend as a lodger, but I've just found out that he still shares a bed with her, though he says there is nothing sexual between them.

I'm not sure that I believe him. All through our relationship, he points out women he thinks are good-looking and makes comments about their appearance. He smacks his lips when a pretty woman comes on telly and couldn't stop looking at my sister's breasts when he met her! Should I try to make a go of this relationship?

answer
I'd be really wary of this guy. I find it highly unlikely that he's sharing a bed with an ex-girlfriend and still being faithful to you. I also find it worrying that he's putting you down so much.

Lose this relationship, and for a while put your energy into building your own esteem and confidence. And wait to form another relationship until you're ready for a man who values you and treats you well.

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