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Week 4: Personal Growth and Commitment

Welcome to week 4 of the Be a Man Magnet Challenge

By now you've had a taste of something new and you should understand a little bit more about yourself. This is a process we all need to go through to improve our love game and strengthen our relationships. You've observed others (particularly men) and now have a better understanding of what makes them tick.

In this final week of the challenge you will learn how life and love are dynamic. You are always changing, even if you don't realise it, and those you meet are constantly changing too. This is a fantastic opportunity for you to take all that you've learned - and all that you are going to learn this week - and start using your new-found knowledge as a part of an ongoing process to enhance your life for ever, and find love too.

The next few steps:

Hang on to your new approach

It's often the case when we're learning about ourselves that we take a step forward and then a couple of steps back. It's quite natural to suddenly feel a little more confident around men, decide to chat one up, find he's not interested and to feel your new-found confidence start to crumble. How can you stop this happening? Here are a couple of tips:

• From now on when you experience a little setback, remind yourself that previously you might never have even put yourself in this situation. That's a huge positive! Keep telling yourself you're in new and different situations and that there are bound to be some that are more daunting than others.
• Think positive. Force yourself to think of the good that's come out of the setback or knock back. For example, the man you chatted up at the salsa class you decided to join may not have fancied you back, but you're sure enjoying learning how to dance! There's a silver lining to every cloud if you're prepared to look for it.

Regular personal and love MOTs

Forward plan in your diary every two months to take an hour out for evaluating how your life is going generally and how your attempts to find a man are going. Put these dates in now and stick to them. Ask yourself these important questions:

• Which area of your life are you happiest with?
• Which area are you least happy with?
• How much are you doing to get out there and meet new men?
• If you've had any dates, have they been happy or unhappy experiences, and why?

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