If your man is an uneasy or inexperienced kisser, don't force him to snog in public. For many people, public displays of affection are embarrassing and tacky, even if they love and fancy you to bits. Their confidence is killed by embarrassment.

4. Take the lead

Many bad kissers lack the confidence to let go and enjoy themselves. If you initiate lots of kisses, his confidence - and technique - will improve. Practice makes perfect, after all.

5. Don't rush him

If you're enjoying the kiss and he seems to be enjoying it too, let it continue. Allow him to relax into it, and he'll soon start to trust his instincts rather than those old teenage ideas about what a grown-up kiss should be like.

Bring your body into it, too. Press against him slowly, and allow him a tingle of sexual anticipation as you tease your tongue around their lips and teeth. Next time he gets you naked, you won't know what hit you...

6. Take him by surprise

Men often think that it's their job to take the lead sexually, and that includes kissing. But secretly, even the most traditionalist male will get a huge thrill - and a confidence boost - from thinking that you can't get enough of him.

Kiss him by surprise when he's doing the washing up, when he's just brushed his teeth or when he comes home from work.

But choose your moment. Don't kiss him just as he's leaving the loo, or when he's deep into his favourite TV programme or computer game. That makes you a bad kisser.

7. Mirror each other

It's human nature for people to mimic each other's behaviour when they're together. If your body language is right, his body language should improve too.

For example, relax, breathe slowly and close your eyes. Your man should do the same, which will go a long way to improving his kiss-technique.

8. Get handy with your mitts

If the mirroring trick is working, your man's hands should get in on the act too. Gently touch his neck, his face, his shoulders and whichever parts of his body you know he's proud of. No, not his crotch - see number 9.

If his own hands remain limply holding your waist, you really have a job to do. You have to be proactive. Brush his hand with yours, move it towards your hip or breast, and push yourself gently against his hand. If this doesn't loosen up his paws, not much will.

9. Ask

He'll find it wildly seductive if you ask 'may I kiss you?' or tell him 'I have to kiss you' - and it will help put you in the driving seat. If his body language suggests that he's in the mood for a snog, whisper the words and get kissing.

10. Don't always follow it with sex

Better kissing will almost certainly improve your sex life. But show your man that a kiss can be a sexual experience in itself, and doesn't always have to lead to full sex.

Incidentally if his sex drive is lower than yours, he may dread kissing because he thinks it has to be a prelude to sex every time.

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