We all know that people make up their minds about someone within the first three seconds of meeting them, so these first three seconds could be make or break moments for you.

First impressions

Make sure you arrive on time, or if you're going to be late give him a quick call or send a text to let him know.

When you meet him, be polite and positive and don't launch into a tirade about the state of the country or public transport or the rubbish day you've had at work – and don't forget to smile.

Things you shouldn't say

Have you ever felt the pressure to fill a conversation gap? Do you suddenly find yourself telling your date about the time you had a few too many and were arrested for being drunk and disorderly and spent the night in a cell with prostitutes?

We've all done it (well maybe not the getting drunk and spending a night in a cell with prostitutes bit) and then sit there cringing with embarrassment while we try desperately to dig ourselves out of a hole.

If you find yourself in an uncomfortable silence, then don't say the first thing that pops into your head, because before you know it he'll be making his excuses and running for the hills. Instead stick to topics that won't embarrass you or him.

You don't have to resort to the weather, but it's always there if you're desperate, but make sure you move on to an interesting topic really quickly.

Here are some conversation stoppers that should be avoided at all costs.

'I'm not allowed within three miles of my ex'
'I'm so excited, I haven't been on a date in five years'
'I plucked my chin hair especially for tonight'
'I Googled you before I came – is your middle name really Godrey?'
'My psychic told me we'd get married'
'My last boyfriend had a HUGE penis'
'I usually get paid for this'
'I hate it when you go out on a date and then they never call – you are going to call me aren't you?'
'I've got this weird rash? would you like to see it?'

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