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Dating tactics

If you've had sex with your date you can NEVER call him until he calls you. There are no exceptions to this rule.

If you haven't slept with him, you can call a man a few days later, anywhere between two days and seven days. (Any longer and it all gets weird). You must be sober when you do and it is best done on an ordinary telephone. Lie on the bed and call - it automatically makes you sound sexy. Do not send cute text messages to start off with and only do so if he first sends you one. I'm not sure about emails but I think they're best avoided. You can't gage someone's demeanour or tone in an email so you waste your leverage when you send them and you don't get much information back. Also, they make you too self-conscious and the old rule about not putting anything in writing probably applies here.

Don't leave messages on his answering machine to begin with either. Try and get him live. The chances are you won't be able to adopt exactly the right level of casualness so don't risk it.

It is better not to call men at all though. If he wants to see you he'll call you. No man is too shy to phone when he's interested so that excuse doesn't wash. As a relationship progresses, you are allowed greater freedoms but a little tact and self-restraint are essential to get you through the first six months.

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