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Should I forgive my interfering friend?

by Sally Ann Lasson

question
My best friend recently got married and I got together with her brother at the wedding. My friend didn't like the situation, partly because he's 10 years younger than me and she said some pretty nasty things. The pressure of her crying on the phone to him eventually became too much for us, and last weekend we sadly called it a day. Since then she has emailed and wants to see me. She doesn't want to talk about what happened and expects us everything to be the same as before. Should I be friends with her again?

answer
No way! There's far too much bad blood between you now for you to rescue the friendship. Siblings are possessive about each other - traditionally, boys don't like their friends to sleep with their sisters - but there's a huge difference between not liking something and laying down the law. This woman is a tyrant, and like all tyrants is petty and vengeful.

She was probably right about a relationship with such an age gap not going anywhere. It's not so much the 10 years but the fact this man - boy, really - is only 21. But all of that was for you to discover and absolutely none of her business. We all have to put up and shut up about our friend's relationships - life would be intolerable otherwise. I expect you have a few things to say to her on that score. Like, why does a newly-wed have the time and inclination to mess about with other people's lives to this extent? And the reason she doesn't want to talk about what happened is because she doesn't have a judgemental leg to stand on. Dump her.
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