Dating Again

So, yes, go for one-on-one meals with potential partners. But also go out for fun dates -bowling, sailing, bungee jumping. Go off on courses, on residential weekends, in small groups or big parties. Get to know men as people, and let your 'dates' be enjoyable experiences.

When it all comes together
When romance does arrive, you'll know - because you'll be excited, longing to see him, optimistic about the future. And this time round, don't settle for anything less. You don't need to rush into anything - particularly not sex - just because he wants it.

Tell him about yourself, so you are sure he knows who you are. Ask questions, so you know who he is. If he turns out to be gay, violent or married, don't go there. Wait for men interested in you, sensitive to your needs, with mutual aims in life and respectful of your situation.

Finding Mr Right
It's always wise - and more likely to get a result - if you take things slowly. And, in all honesty, be prepared for some disappointments. It's unusual for the first romance you have after the breakdown of a serious relationship to be 'the one', to work out. So plan to go on lots of dates, to start - and finish - lots of short-term relationships, and to wait a while until you find the right one for you.

Yes, sadly, you may have to kiss some frogs before you find your prince. But remember that, judging by current figures of marriage and remarriage, you will find him - and you will have your happy ending.

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Starting Again by Sarah Litvinoff (Vermilion £7.99)