Relationships 

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Is he right for me?

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Question 3: Can he sustain a relationship?
However much passion and emotion there is between you and your man, that's a very different issue from whether he can sustain a stable and loving relationship. So look at the evidence you've gathered over the time you've been together.

Is he honest? You need someone who doesn't lie, weasel, or fudge the issues. Is he reliable, doing what he says he will do when he said he would do it? Is he emotionally open, or does it take a sledgehammer to get him to admit his feelings? Is he kind and considerate to you, to his friends, to his family? Is he solidly self-confident - or does he need alcohol, drugs or constant approval to bolster his confidence?

You're not looking for a saint but these issues are the basics, the 'must-haves' if you want a relationship to work. If you hesitate over any of these questions, that doesn't mean you should automatically be packing your bags. But it should raise serious questions in your mind about whether you deserve better.

Question 4: Does he want what you have to offer?
The man you commit to has to be someone who wants you for yourself. So does he? Does he enjoy himself when he's with you, does he genuinely like your company, and does he respect you?

You may want to ask for your friends' and family's opinions here - they may see things more clearly than you do. How do they think he treats you? Sometimes it can be misleading to rely on other people's viewpoints, but those close to you can often give a realistic and useful opinion on whether the man you adore adores you in return.

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