Dear Sally Ann
I'm a 32-year-old single woman in love with a wonderful man. I met him about six months ago and was swept off my feet. He is everything I could ever want, but he's getting divorced and has been badly hurt. He is becoming very well known within his career too. I think I'm getting too fond of him - I feel like a teenager with a huge crush. I can't eat or sleep, I think about him all the time and I'm scared of feeling this way.
Sonia

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Dear Sonia
Can't eat? Can't sleep? Obsessed? Scared? Sounds like a classic case of love to me. Of course you're scared. It's a scary business putting your future happiness in someone else's hands, which is why you need to have a bit of faith in it. Your reservations about this man are all very sensible, but they don't need to dominate your feelings.

A man on the brink of divorce and career success is in a volatile state of mind, but at your age everyone you meet is going to be dealing with stuff like this. You say he is everything that you ever wanted - well, you always get a few bits that you didn't ever want too. What you don't mention is how he feels about you. Does he feel the same way? Or is he using his divorce/work to keep you at a distance? If your interest in him is reciprocated then he deserves your support during this time of transition. And at 32, you owe yourself the luxury of behaving like a teenager.

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A classic case of love