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Online love is speedy - so slow it down
As with a real-time relationship, if online love's going to last, it'll survive a wait. Be patient and avoid eight-hour emailing sessions, especially at the beginning.

If he moves too quickly, slow him down. If he says he loves you within days, it's more likely he loves the fantasy of you, or he's desperate. If he becomes sexual before you're ready, tell him to stop. If he won't, then walk away.

Online love is seductive - so subject it to a hefty dose of reality
It's easy to experience strong feelings as an online relationship develops, but this intensity does not guarantee compatibility. Don't become too focused on him and your relationship. Make sure you have a life outside of your time online.

Also, plan to meet up fairly soon after the two of you have recognised there's a bond. Of course, follow the safety rules. But, bring your relationship into reality in order to stop building up a fantasy to the point where no mortal being can fulfil it.

Finally, be aware that when your online love hits real time, there's a very good chance it'll fail. Online, your relationship may be wonderful with endless emails and out-of-this-world chats, but because this is only half the story, it may not be the basis for a lasting partnership.

So, if he rejects you or you don't like him, don't take it personally. Remember that, in a whole new era of online relationships, the rules have changed. And all of us are learning to love in a slightly different way.

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