What is a surrendered single?

A Surrendered Single is:

1. open where she was guarded;
   
2. optimistic where she was cynical;
   
3. feminine where she was tough;
   
4. gracious where once she fended for herself;
   
5. respectful where she used to feel superior.

When a single woman surrenders, she doesn't try to manipulate a man to express his feelings, devotion, or commitment. She knows that would render his words meaningless. It creates the same kind of tension and frustration as when you twist someone's arm to do something rather than letting him decide when and how he wants to do it. She refrains from making ultimatums, nagging, criticising, and correcting the man she is romantically involved with. She knows she can't improve someone else, and that trying to do so will cost her intimacy.

Instead of indulging in negative thinking about men and dating, she knows that there are both pleasures and risks involved in discovering an intimate relationship.

A Surrendered Single lets go of the negative beliefs she's been holding on to like a security blanket, such as:

1. There are no good single men out there.
   
2. I'm too old to attract someone.
   
3. Dating is too much trouble.
   

At first surrendering will feel awkward and frightening. But so what? No one ever died from these feelings. They're trivial compared to the payoff.

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