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Seven ways to attract and marry the man who's right for you

1. Smile at everyone you see.
2. Accept dates with men you normally wouldn't.
3. Let him pay for the date.
4. Instead of asking men out, ask them to ask you out.
5. Honour your desire to marry, but don't make ultimatums.
6. Be quiet on the first date.
7. Throw out your checklist for the perfect man.

A Surrendered Single recognizes that if she wants to attract the man with whom she can develop intimacy, she cannot control relationships. She cannot determine who asks her out, how he'll do it, when he'll call or e-mail, or if he'll commit to her. A Surrendered Single may have unwittingly been trying to control, manipulate, and force relationships previously, but no more. She doesn't hunt for Mr. Right - she focuses on attracting him, and so she does.

By letting a man woo her, she enjoys the pleasure of being pursued. She feels confident, feminine and dignified. Dating becomes fun again, and marriage follows.

From The Surrendered Single by Laura Doyle, published by Simon & Schuster. Copyright 2002 by Laura Doyle.

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