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Perhaps Diane should have been more wary about getting involved with Jack's relationship with his son. At the same time, she was able to learn a bit more about him by observing the way he treated David.
Nicky, 30, found a boyfriend without really looking. Her daughter was just a toddler when her marriage broke up. Browsing the Internet one night led her to romance.
'I was just looking up old pals on Facebook,' she says, 'and ended up talking to Chris, someone I'd dated briefly as a teenager.'
Nicky's new relationship meant changes for everyone involved. Recently, she moved from Birmingham to be with Chris in London. She secured a new job in hospital administration, but had to leave Isobel with her ex-husband. 'One of us had to leave and it made sense for Isobel to stay with the person who stayed in the house,' she says. She was only able to leave because Chris welcomes Isobel's visits and has no problem with Nicky often travelling north to see her child.
Flexibility is crucial in any relationship involving children, especially if you have none yourself. The parent will inevitably spend time with his or her ex-partner because of childcare arrangements, and dates may have to be cancelled because the babysitter can't make it. If you're not prepared to be open-minded and generous when these hiccups happen, the relationship may be doomed.
There are no hard and fast rules - every relationship is different. Christine Northam urges couples to keep talking when things get tough. It certainly worked for Nicky, who has been living with Chris for eight months now. Daughter Isobel is so happy with the situation, she's even told Nicky that she's glad she's found someone to look after her!
Perhaps Diane should have been more wary about getting involved with Jack's relationship with his son. At the same time, she was able to learn a bit more about him by observing the way he treated David.
Nicky, 30, found a boyfriend without really looking. Her daughter was just a toddler when her marriage broke up. Browsing the Internet one night led her to romance.
'I was just looking up old pals on Facebook,' she says, 'and ended up talking to Chris, someone I'd dated briefly as a teenager.'
Nicky's new relationship meant changes for everyone involved. Recently, she moved from Birmingham to be with Chris in London. She secured a new job in hospital administration, but had to leave Isobel with her ex-husband. 'One of us had to leave and it made sense for Isobel to stay with the person who stayed in the house,' she says. She was only able to leave because Chris welcomes Isobel's visits and has no problem with Nicky often travelling north to see her child.
Flexibility is crucial in any relationship involving children, especially if you have none yourself. The parent will inevitably spend time with his or her ex-partner because of childcare arrangements, and dates may have to be cancelled because the babysitter can't make it. If you're not prepared to be open-minded and generous when these hiccups happen, the relationship may be doomed.
There are no hard and fast rules - every relationship is different. Christine Northam urges couples to keep talking when things get tough. It certainly worked for Nicky, who has been living with Chris for eight months now. Daughter Isobel is so happy with the situation, she's even told Nicky that she's glad she's found someone to look after her!
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