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Step four: put out the 'available' message
Trust me, men often want to pair up with the women they meet. But sadly, they can lack the confidence - or the social competence - to pick up the signals and take things further. So spell it out for them - not by being overtly sexual, but by emphasising your normal friendly verbal and non-verbal signs.
Action: When you meet an interesting man, make him the focus of your attention - look, smile, nod and ask questions. Mirror his body language with yours. Stand close to him when you're talking - just to the extent that you could comfortably reach out and touch. If you sense he's interested but isn't making a move, take the initiative - suggest a drink or a film.
Step five: check him out early
Even if you're not hunting after marriage material, you need to make sure any guy you start to date is not going to make you miserable - and that he'll hang about at least until the New Year. So however much you lust after him, make sure he isn't just using you.
Action: Check - by watching him, by asking him, by seeing how he behaves to you and to the other people you see him with. Walk away immediately if you find out that he's: married, engaged, living with someone, or dating - even if 'she doesn't understand me'. Walk too if he: drinks too much, seems addicted to drugs, shows signs of violence, has a track record of infidelity or flirts too much with other women.
Step four: put out the 'available' message
Trust me, men often want to pair up with the women they meet. But sadly, they can lack the confidence - or the social competence - to pick up the signals and take things further. So spell it out for them - not by being overtly sexual, but by emphasising your normal friendly verbal and non-verbal signs.
Action: When you meet an interesting man, make him the focus of your attention - look, smile, nod and ask questions. Mirror his body language with yours. Stand close to him when you're talking - just to the extent that you could comfortably reach out and touch. If you sense he's interested but isn't making a move, take the initiative - suggest a drink or a film.
Step five: check him out early
Even if you're not hunting after marriage material, you need to make sure any guy you start to date is not going to make you miserable - and that he'll hang about at least until the New Year. So however much you lust after him, make sure he isn't just using you.
Action: Check - by watching him, by asking him, by seeing how he behaves to you and to the other people you see him with. Walk away immediately if you find out that he's: married, engaged, living with someone, or dating - even if 'she doesn't understand me'. Walk too if he: drinks too much, seems addicted to drugs, shows signs of violence, has a track record of infidelity or flirts too much with other women.
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