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10 ways to find a man for Christmas
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Step nine: build intimacy
To build a relationship quickly (that is, in time for Christmas), you can't simply sit back and let things take their course. Of course, if the two of you aren't compatible, then nothing you do will change that. But if you're getting on well and feeling relaxed with each other, then you can actively build intimacy.
Action: First, get interested in what he's interested in, and get him involved in the things you're interested in whether it's sports, hobbies, music or films. Second, open up about your thoughts and feelings, particularly the positive ones, and ask about his. Third, start mixing with each other's friends - use the opportunity of office Christmas parties and festive get togethers to slowly include him in your personal and professional life. Last but not least, touch - not just during sex but at other times; skin on skin contact is one of the key ways that humans bond with each other.
Step ten: have a great - but balanced - Christmas
Of course you want to celebrate the festive season with your man - that's the whole point of this ten-step plan. But don't rush things. As Yuletide approaches, it's important to have a clear idea of what the balance of involvement is between you - and what that means for your first Christmas together. Nothing is worse than buying him a gold watch and discovering he's bought you a box of chocolates.
Action: Notice how you feel about him, and how you think he feels about you - as shown by how much time you spend together and how attentive he is. Then about a month before Christmas, have a more formal chat about your plans, particularly about what level of present you'll be buying for each other and what you'll do on the day itself.
If you get total agreement - wonderful. But if he seems to want a lesser (or greater) degree of involvement than you, ride with it: don't push to be invited to his family Christmas dinner or allow him to attend yours if it doesn't feel quite right yet.
Because actually, it's early days; this is just the start of your relationship. The bottom line is that if you play your cards right, this man can be for life, not just for Christmas.
Step nine: build intimacy
To build a relationship quickly (that is, in time for Christmas), you can't simply sit back and let things take their course. Of course, if the two of you aren't compatible, then nothing you do will change that. But if you're getting on well and feeling relaxed with each other, then you can actively build intimacy.
Action: First, get interested in what he's interested in, and get him involved in the things you're interested in whether it's sports, hobbies, music or films. Second, open up about your thoughts and feelings, particularly the positive ones, and ask about his. Third, start mixing with each other's friends - use the opportunity of office Christmas parties and festive get togethers to slowly include him in your personal and professional life. Last but not least, touch - not just during sex but at other times; skin on skin contact is one of the key ways that humans bond with each other.
Step ten: have a great - but balanced - Christmas
Of course you want to celebrate the festive season with your man - that's the whole point of this ten-step plan. But don't rush things. As Yuletide approaches, it's important to have a clear idea of what the balance of involvement is between you - and what that means for your first Christmas together. Nothing is worse than buying him a gold watch and discovering he's bought you a box of chocolates.
Action: Notice how you feel about him, and how you think he feels about you - as shown by how much time you spend together and how attentive he is. Then about a month before Christmas, have a more formal chat about your plans, particularly about what level of present you'll be buying for each other and what you'll do on the day itself.
If you get total agreement - wonderful. But if he seems to want a lesser (or greater) degree of involvement than you, ride with it: don't push to be invited to his family Christmas dinner or allow him to attend yours if it doesn't feel quite right yet.
Because actually, it's early days; this is just the start of your relationship. The bottom line is that if you play your cards right, this man can be for life, not just for Christmas.
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