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What is a surrendered single?
'Surrender' really is the right word
Eventually I lost interest in trying to control...to make things happen in a way that I thought I wanted them to be. I began to practice surrendering to the universe and finding out what 'it' wanted me to do. - Shakti Gawain
The word surrender frightens some because it calls to mind losing a battle or spinelessness. But in interpersonal relationships, surrendering is simply acknowledging that sometimes the only thing I can change is my attitude, and that doing so has a profound effect on everything else. Making 'surrender' your mantra is much shorter and to the point than saying to yourself, 'Stop trying to dictate who comes into your life and what he'll be like and when he will call.'
The basic principles of a Surrendered Single are that she:
- acknowledges her desire to attract and marry a man who's right for her;
- lets go of the idea of a perfect man;
- receives compliments, gifts, help, and dates graciously whenever possible;
- takes responsibility for and focuses on her own happiness and fulfillment;
- relinquishes control of the pace of the courtship;
- strives to be vulnerable;
- honors her desire to be married by ending dead-end relationships;
- checks for safety before she risks herself physically or emotionally.
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