Should I stay or should I go?

On the surface, all these seem like very good reasons to part. But in fact, almost always they are resolvable if you're prepared to change what you're doing. Boredom can be reversed and constant arguments halted.

Try reading Suzy Hayman's book, Make Your Honeymoon Last (Hodder and Stoughton, £6.99) to combat boredom. And my book, Stop Arguing Start Talking (Vermilion, £6.99) will help you to do exactly what the title promises. If books don't do it for you, or if things have just deteriorated too much, then try Relate, the couple's counselling organisation. Their website will have the number of your nearest branch. If the issue is mainly sexual, then try the British Association for Sexual and Relationship Therapy.

One big 'but' though. If neither you nor your partner are willing to go to counselling or to put self-help into practice, then the bottom line is that you have no way of stopping bad feeling. And frankly, divorce may well be your best way forward.