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Love and marriage... and divorce?
iVillage talks to three women who have married and divorced, about how they coped with the process, and how it affected them later in love and life
Statistics show that fewer people get married today. Those that do take a trip down the aisle are leaving it until later in life, and sadly a fair share of those marriages will end in divorce.
Byrony: "When you've been married and divorced, all before your 30th birthday, you stick out a bit"
Elinor: "We were married within five months and two months after that I fell pregnant"
Ruth: "We had a communication problem"
Bryony's story
I started medical school in London when I was 19 and met Julian in the first week. We lived in the same hall of residence. The only payphone was mounted outside his room. My mother was always calling, so he was forever answering the phone and knocking on my door to pass on messages. It became a bit of a joke and we soon became friends.
Medical students form pretty intense relationships as the studying and long hours draw you into each other's lives, and away from the outside world. So we became close quickly, and before long we were a couple. We had the same friends, studied together, and supported each other through the intense workload. By the time we came to our final year, marriage seemed like the logical next step.
I decided to finish studying to become a general practitioner, whereas Julian wanted to carry on and specialise in Oncology, helping people suffering from cancer. In the first year of marriage, my workload reduced, while his got worse. I supported him as much as I could, and he, although tired a lot, worked hard to make me happy too.
The real problem started when he was offered a placement at a university in the US. I had just started at a new practice and was not ready to throw away my years of study to join him for the six months he would be away. We had no choice but to have a long distance relationship for a while.
Statistics show that fewer people get married today. Those that do take a trip down the aisle are leaving it until later in life, and sadly a fair share of those marriages will end in divorce.
Byrony: "When you've been married and divorced, all before your 30th birthday, you stick out a bit"
Elinor: "We were married within five months and two months after that I fell pregnant"
Ruth: "We had a communication problem"
Bryony's story
I started medical school in London when I was 19 and met Julian in the first week. We lived in the same hall of residence. The only payphone was mounted outside his room. My mother was always calling, so he was forever answering the phone and knocking on my door to pass on messages. It became a bit of a joke and we soon became friends.
Medical students form pretty intense relationships as the studying and long hours draw you into each other's lives, and away from the outside world. So we became close quickly, and before long we were a couple. We had the same friends, studied together, and supported each other through the intense workload. By the time we came to our final year, marriage seemed like the logical next step.
I decided to finish studying to become a general practitioner, whereas Julian wanted to carry on and specialise in Oncology, helping people suffering from cancer. In the first year of marriage, my workload reduced, while his got worse. I supported him as much as I could, and he, although tired a lot, worked hard to make me happy too.
The real problem started when he was offered a placement at a university in the US. I had just started at a new practice and was not ready to throw away my years of study to join him for the six months he would be away. We had no choice but to have a long distance relationship for a while.
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