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Should I leave my annoying husband?
I don't love my husband anymore. He annoys me when he's in the house, even if he's nowhere near me. We argue a lot over money, he spends too much and then we have no money for bills etc. Also our sex life is nonexistent. I have tried to initiate sex but last time he couldn't tear his eyes away from the TV during foreplay. I got annoyed and told him to either watch telly or play with me - he carried on watching telly. I can't stand the sight of him and don't know what to do. If I leave I'd have nowhere to go and I don't want to uproot the kids - I'm stuck here until they leave school. What can I do?
In fact, to be blunt, you've got three ways out. First, you can put up with the situation. You can hang on in there for the next few years, but you can decide to enjoy life, to get pleasure from your children and your family, to be happy inside even though your marriage is falling apart.
Or, you can try to change your marriage - though by the sound of it, you're going to have to do all the work here, go and see a counsellor yourself, learn new ways of handling your husband and new ways of handling your relationship.
Or, you can leave, despite your fears. Women all over the country walk out every day, with very few resources. You can uproot the kids, you can find somewhere else to go, you can pull yourself up by your bootstraps and escape. You can do it.
I'm not being unsympathetic here. I'm just pointing out that if you carry on saying that you can't stay and carry on saying you can't leave, then you will spend the rest of your life unhappy. Do one or the other, right now - and make it work.
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