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Dinner party disaster
Dear Sally Ann
The other night I met a boy I quite liked at a dinner party. I got completely drunk and despite having difficulty standing we ended up going back to my place. In my stupor when I found this boy naked in my bed I decided it would be fun to have sex. The next morning feeling horrified with myself I kicked him out. Now I’ve sobered up I’ve realised I’d like to see him again and I actually really like him. I know I won’t be able to have a relationship with him now, but do you think it’s possible for a friendship to bloom?
Confused
Isn’t it amazing that no matter how much one has had to drink, and how incapable one is of doing the simplest thing (like standing upright) one can still remember the infinitely more complex manoeuvre of identifying the nearest attractive male for company, finding one’s way home, getting into bed and having sex? Now, the reason for this miracle is that nature is determined to get you paired off with a viable man and will do this with or without your conscious consent.
But, you see, nature knows best because on sober reflection you’ve realised that you do, in fact, like this bloke. There are many ways of meeting men and this is just another of those. When you woke up horrified and threw him out you were hungover and shamefaced. Never mind. This is a historically correct way of effecting an introduction. Now you’re ready for a first date with the embarrassing dilemma of whether to sleep with each other or not out of the way. First dates are awesome enough without having to worry about that too.
I suggest you call him up. Be nice. Don’t start saying things about not remembering exactly what happened the other night. After all, he’s in the same position as you are – you both know more than is good for you and it is always better to turn awkwardness on its head. Tell him you had a lovely evening. Tell him you really liked meeting him. Tell him you were a bit of a tragedy grump in the morning but that you’d really like to get together again. Why wouldn’t he want to hear from you?
You say that you know you won't be able to have a relationship with him now, but you can. It might be romantic, it might be a friendship, it could be the great love of your life. What you need to do is talk to him, look at him, see if you get on and whether you like each other. One word of caution, though. By all means have a few drinks when you meet him again but don’t overdo it. If you really like him, a more sober approach is necessary. Repetitive behaviour is boring.
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