Banish the body blues

A more useful, longer-term strategy, is to change your mind rather than your body. It was Jennifer Lopez - voted the world’s sexiest woman - who said that her looks are unimportant. It’s the way she feels about herself that makes her a killer beauty. Sexiness comes with confidence.

You may be muttering, ‘It’s all right for her, she’s got the looks’. But she’s Right, if you feel bad, you’ll look bad. If you feel good about yourself as a person, you will look beautiful. Your partner will see you as beautiful. He’ll pick up on your self-belief.

So concentrate, in bed and out, on the parts of your body you are happy with. Do you love your hands, your hair, your eyes? Be aware of your assets, flaunt them and believe it when people pay you compliments.

Your man cares about you, not your insecurities
Always believe your partner’s compliments. Women’s belief that men want bodily perfection is a purely female hang-up. When men are young, and before they’ve experienced a real relationship, they love to ogle sex symbols - just as we fancied Brad Pitt.

No survey has ever recorded man’s requirement for a flat stomach in his partner. Very few men specify their preferred breast size - those who do being almost equally divided between the large and the small.

By the time you’ve gone to bed with a man, you’ve almost certainly had a hug or a cuddle. He already knows what size you are, how slim your waist is or whether you’re well rounded, and he still wants to go to bed with you.

He is so overwhelmed by the touch and feel and smell of you - and the fact that you’re willing to go to bed with him - that he doesn’t give a damn about your perceived lack of perfection.