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Reinvent yourself week two
Who do you want to be?
'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?' Nelson Mandela
By now, you've had time to take a close look at yourself. You'll probably have identified attitudes or behaviours that you'd prefer to let go of or minimise. That's great. Remember you're a work in progress. Cultivating your character and choosing your demeanour is your prerogative.
Not everyone will see the logic of this. You'll find plenty of people who genuinely feel that we just are who we are and there's not a lot we can do about it. This is nonsense. No one would argue that you shouldn't work on your body and physical appearance to improve how you look and feel. Refining your psychology and personality should receive equal priority.
The big question is: who do you want to be? The answer is - brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous! Aspire to be the best expression of you. This does not mean you lose the essence of you. You aren't going to turn into anyone other than the most perfected version of you that you choose to be.
Get inspired
Right now, sit back for a moment and inspire yourself. Have a vision. See yourself at your fabulous best.Perhaps you're seeing yourself as dynamic, decisive and performing brilliantly at work. Savour the moment. Watch yourself with pride. Let yourself feel excited by your potential unfolding.
There is absolutely nothing to stop you from moving into this persona. You'll have a measure of these qualities already. It's a question of increasing some, decreasing others. You need to get specific about the qualities you want to emphasise. How do you want to come across?
Think about the three most impressive people you know. These can be people you've only briefly met or long-standing friends. Identify the quality in each individual that impressed you the most. What is it about them that you find so attractive? Be as precise as possible. Capture that quality for yourself and adopt it. There is no reason why you shouldn't wear those characteristics yourself.
You're in charge
Directing yourself is much easier than you may think. All change begins with a decision. Then, constant vigilance is required to make the changes stick. I'm a completely different person from the one I used to be. I used to be the most intolerant person. I grew sick of being this way and decided to rid myself of this outlook. The change began with that decision. From that day forth I policed my thoughts and words so they reflected a fairer, less prejudiced and detached view of other people. Fifteen years later, I can honestly say I've succeeded. I'm the most intolerant person I know. Now, maintenance is all that is required.
'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?' Nelson Mandela
By now, you've had time to take a close look at yourself. You'll probably have identified attitudes or behaviours that you'd prefer to let go of or minimise. That's great. Remember you're a work in progress. Cultivating your character and choosing your demeanour is your prerogative.
Not everyone will see the logic of this. You'll find plenty of people who genuinely feel that we just are who we are and there's not a lot we can do about it. This is nonsense. No one would argue that you shouldn't work on your body and physical appearance to improve how you look and feel. Refining your psychology and personality should receive equal priority.
The big question is: who do you want to be? The answer is - brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous! Aspire to be the best expression of you. This does not mean you lose the essence of you. You aren't going to turn into anyone other than the most perfected version of you that you choose to be.
Get inspired
Right now, sit back for a moment and inspire yourself. Have a vision. See yourself at your fabulous best.Perhaps you're seeing yourself as dynamic, decisive and performing brilliantly at work. Savour the moment. Watch yourself with pride. Let yourself feel excited by your potential unfolding.
There is absolutely nothing to stop you from moving into this persona. You'll have a measure of these qualities already. It's a question of increasing some, decreasing others. You need to get specific about the qualities you want to emphasise. How do you want to come across?
Think about the three most impressive people you know. These can be people you've only briefly met or long-standing friends. Identify the quality in each individual that impressed you the most. What is it about them that you find so attractive? Be as precise as possible. Capture that quality for yourself and adopt it. There is no reason why you shouldn't wear those characteristics yourself.
You're in charge
Directing yourself is much easier than you may think. All change begins with a decision. Then, constant vigilance is required to make the changes stick. I'm a completely different person from the one I used to be. I used to be the most intolerant person. I grew sick of being this way and decided to rid myself of this outlook. The change began with that decision. From that day forth I policed my thoughts and words so they reflected a fairer, less prejudiced and detached view of other people. Fifteen years later, I can honestly say I've succeeded. I'm the most intolerant person I know. Now, maintenance is all that is required.
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