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Reinvent yourself week five
Fake it. Faking it will be an indispensable tool in your bag of reinvention tricks
You've covered some ground over the past few weeks, all in the noble pursuit of making yourself into the very best version of you. You've been cultivating yourself to a new level of refinement and taking full responsibility for making yourself into the most attractive you that you can be.
Now you deserve some fun! I want to convince you of the absolute need to fake it, as occasion sometimes requires you to. Faking it will be an indispensable tool in your bag of reinvention tricks.
The gap between your life now and where you want to be has to be closed. Any worthwhile, significant progression creates a gap. Closing that gap as gracefully and quickly as possible is the challenge. Most people never grasp this unavoidable fact of change, and make life unnecessarily difficult for themselves. Thankfully, you won't be one of them. Forewarned is forearmed.
Play your part - closing the gap means you have to learn the art of acting the part.
How else do actors convincingly play the part of characters completely different from themselves? They identify the mannerisms and behaviour of their chosen role and then inhabit that persona. When they do it thoroughly enough, we are convinced. If they do it long enough, they are convinced. Known as the 'method' school of acting, actors often find it extremely difficult to shake off the adopted persona. They often have to studiously 'debrief' themselves to return to their original self. Al Pacino once said in a interview, 'I've been doing so many different characters, it's sometimes difficult to remember my own.'
Act as if
The mistake many people make is giving up before they make it real. They feel ill at ease. They feel they're faking it. Of course they are. It's the easiest, and sometimes the only way to make it to the other side.
I believe that great achievers everywhere understand the importance of faking it. Anna Wintour, British editor-in-chief of American Vogue, is a case in point. Hugely successful in the cut-throat world of US publishing, she is known as Nuclear Wintour for her glacial manner. Personally, I think she's fabulous and a fine model for busy women, especially if getting out of the office at a decent hour to see your kids is important. Her decisiveness is legendary. In a documentary she once admitted to acting decisive, even when she doesn't feel it. She simply points out that her position requires her to be seen as decisive. Her staff need her to act this way. She has a lot to get through and, at the end of the day, it's only fashion. Regardless of how she feels, she acts decisively.
You've covered some ground over the past few weeks, all in the noble pursuit of making yourself into the very best version of you. You've been cultivating yourself to a new level of refinement and taking full responsibility for making yourself into the most attractive you that you can be.
Now you deserve some fun! I want to convince you of the absolute need to fake it, as occasion sometimes requires you to. Faking it will be an indispensable tool in your bag of reinvention tricks.
The gap between your life now and where you want to be has to be closed. Any worthwhile, significant progression creates a gap. Closing that gap as gracefully and quickly as possible is the challenge. Most people never grasp this unavoidable fact of change, and make life unnecessarily difficult for themselves. Thankfully, you won't be one of them. Forewarned is forearmed.
Play your part - closing the gap means you have to learn the art of acting the part.
How else do actors convincingly play the part of characters completely different from themselves? They identify the mannerisms and behaviour of their chosen role and then inhabit that persona. When they do it thoroughly enough, we are convinced. If they do it long enough, they are convinced. Known as the 'method' school of acting, actors often find it extremely difficult to shake off the adopted persona. They often have to studiously 'debrief' themselves to return to their original self. Al Pacino once said in a interview, 'I've been doing so many different characters, it's sometimes difficult to remember my own.'
Act as if
The mistake many people make is giving up before they make it real. They feel ill at ease. They feel they're faking it. Of course they are. It's the easiest, and sometimes the only way to make it to the other side.
I believe that great achievers everywhere understand the importance of faking it. Anna Wintour, British editor-in-chief of American Vogue, is a case in point. Hugely successful in the cut-throat world of US publishing, she is known as Nuclear Wintour for her glacial manner. Personally, I think she's fabulous and a fine model for busy women, especially if getting out of the office at a decent hour to see your kids is important. Her decisiveness is legendary. In a documentary she once admitted to acting decisive, even when she doesn't feel it. She simply points out that her position requires her to be seen as decisive. Her staff need her to act this way. She has a lot to get through and, at the end of the day, it's only fashion. Regardless of how she feels, she acts decisively.
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