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Daddy's girl

by Kathy Watson
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Behaviour patterns based on relationships formed as long ago as the father/daughter bond can be hard to break. Hard but not impossible. Recognising the pattern is the first step and, for some women, that's all they need in order to make changes. Others can benefit from gently reminding themselves that their father is, like them, only human. Well-intentioned but flawed and, above all, unique. Your partner can't be him, replace him or live up to him. Nobody can.

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Of course you may be one of the lucky ones. Perhaps you had one of the good dads, the sort who encouraged you to do the things that interested you rather than pushing you in a direction that suited him. Perhaps he cheered your efforts and told you it didn't matter if you didn't get it quite right and better luck next time. And he loved your mother and didn't favour your brothers. As for his job, well he enjoyed it but he didn't think it was the most important thing in the world. And there were only a few household rules, which made sense. He explained why they were necessary and understood that you needed to flout them from time to time.

Well, if that's your old man, then you're a very lucky woman and, this Father's Day, you should avoid the special gifts section and give him something better than amusing cufflinks shaped like golf balls or ties adorned with cricket bats. Give him a little of your time.



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