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Your personality explained: 6 facts about you
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The Blamer
Who are you - and why?
Life can be tough. And as a blamer, you've learned to bite back - to strike out before anything emotionally affects you. Don't feel bad - it's a very effective coping strategy in a threatening world.
The positives:
You never take any flack. You're great in conflict situations especially where there's a need for strong leadership or champion for a cause. Your energy carries you through where other people may fear to tread.
The negatives:
Your upfront attitude can make people wary of you.
The blamer at work:
You can handle stress, like no one else. You thrive in demanding jobs and are great on the front line. The risk is that you may burn out - or alienate colleagues with your attitude.
The blamer in love:
You never make a dull partner. If you don't watch out, you could end up lonely. You must work at letting down your barriers to create intimacy.
Your love match:
Pair you with a placator and you may feel much less threatened and so be able to enjoy the relationship, while a leveller may help you to relax and trust enough to truly love.
What should you do?
You need to face up to your tendency to conflict and blame. Read Stop Arguing, Start Talking by Susan Quilliam, (Vermilion, £6.99) or consider taking an anger management course in order to stay calm and approachable.
Discover even more about your personality by reading Susan Quilliam's new book, What Makes People Tick? (Element, £9.99)
The Blamer
Who are you - and why?
Life can be tough. And as a blamer, you've learned to bite back - to strike out before anything emotionally affects you. Don't feel bad - it's a very effective coping strategy in a threatening world.
The positives:
You never take any flack. You're great in conflict situations especially where there's a need for strong leadership or champion for a cause. Your energy carries you through where other people may fear to tread.
The negatives:
Your upfront attitude can make people wary of you.
The blamer at work:
You can handle stress, like no one else. You thrive in demanding jobs and are great on the front line. The risk is that you may burn out - or alienate colleagues with your attitude.
The blamer in love:
You never make a dull partner. If you don't watch out, you could end up lonely. You must work at letting down your barriers to create intimacy.
Your love match:
Pair you with a placator and you may feel much less threatened and so be able to enjoy the relationship, while a leveller may help you to relax and trust enough to truly love.
What should you do?
You need to face up to your tendency to conflict and blame. Read Stop Arguing, Start Talking by Susan Quilliam, (Vermilion, £6.99) or consider taking an anger management course in order to stay calm and approachable.
Discover even more about your personality by reading Susan Quilliam's new book, What Makes People Tick? (Element, £9.99)
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