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Husband won't give up the other woman
Dear Susan,
My husband had an affair last year on the Internet. We separated, then he returned when he realised I still loved him, but only on the proviso that he could continue with the other woman. They talk on the phone and text each other every day. He says that I can take it or leave it. He claims I let myself go, even though I lost four stone in weight and dress how he likes. We have tried separation but still love one another. I suggested counselling but he says he will not have other people telling him what to do.
Dawn
Dear Dawn,
Well, your husband says that you must take it or leave it. To be frank, I'd leave it.
It's not so much that he has had an affair. It's that he is laying down the law here, not allowing you any say in what's happening, not treating you as an equal partner. In fact, you're not an equal partner - not any sort of partner, just someone who lives life the way he tells you to because you don't want to lose him. This may be love on your part, but it certainly isn't on his.
My advice, then, would be to leave, to make the break and find someone who values you for who you are - number one, not number two.
Well, your husband says that you must take it or leave it. To be frank, I'd leave it.
It's not so much that he has had an affair. It's that he is laying down the law here, not allowing you any say in what's happening, not treating you as an equal partner. In fact, you're not an equal partner - not any sort of partner, just someone who lives life the way he tells you to because you don't want to lose him. This may be love on your part, but it certainly isn't on his.
My advice, then, would be to leave, to make the break and find someone who values you for who you are - number one, not number two.
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