The ten most surprising things about marriage

6. Your spouse may change over time.

'Most men, good or bad, get married so they can relax and be themselves. Most women still try to be someone special for their husbands. So, newlyweds, hang in there. Your relationship may change. And not necessarily for the worse.' - dassso

7. You won't necessarily agree on everything.

'I am a registered nurse and my husband has a very diverse employment history (i.e. never keeps a job for very long), plus we have very different values and objectives when it comes to money. Frustrating? Always! Manageable? Most of the time.' - lizzybeth99

8. Sometimes it just gets better and better.

'My husband and I have been married for 44 years this April. I believe one of our secrets is that he is my best friend and I am his. When we have anything to discuss, he is my first choice. We love being together, even if it's driving in the country and not saying a word for miles. I'm so lucky to have such a wonderful relationship with a wonderful man.' - Charli

9. Your sex life, even if it's great before marriage, will have its ups and downs.

'My husband and I used to have a great sex life before we got married. Now I feel as if I have no desire most of the time. My only advice is to try to make special time with each other when there is no pressure to have sex. Just spend time together enjoying each other's company. I have found that when my husband and I do that, sex seems to come naturally.' - lfloyd72

'Do not pressure him when it comes to sex. The more you pressure him, the worse it will get.' - jexibelle

10. The truth always comes out.

'No matter what, you have to be honest with each other; otherwise it might not all end for the best. My first husband was not honest, and after ten years we divorced. Too many lies. He was having affairs; of course I found out, and we just fell apart.' - twntdarden

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