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I was 14 and very drunk - bad combination. Anonymous

I was 18, and I didn't so much lose it as get rid of it as quickly as possible. After leaving home I was convinced that I had a huge amount of catching up to do with my peers. Afterwards I made the big mistake of telling my mother, who was extremely shocked and lectured me about the dangers of having sex young. I was so upset I broke off the relationship, and then avoided having any other sexual relations for years. In retrospect this was just silly: 18 wasn't too young, although it was probably not too smart to jump into bed with the first man I found. I would be much more careful if my daughter made the same announcement to me (I hope!).
Superwoman2001

I was 13 when I lost my virginity. By the time I was 14 I'd had sex with 13 different boys. Got pregnant by one of them and had an abortion. I'm a bit of a mess now.
Lisa_dm16

Lost my virginity at 22. I did not let on that I was a virgin and the guy was none the wiser. Regretted it because I was not interested in having a relationship with him.
Darky84

I lost mine at 14 and I regret it every day. I wasn't forced, but I had no other choice: my boyfriend (four years older than me) told me, 'if I loved him I would'. At 14 I would have done anything for him.
Anonymous

I first had sex several days before my 15th birthday. I'm now 26 and do regret having had such a meaningless sexual encounter. There was a lot of pressure within my peer group to be the first and all my friends lost their virginity at around the same time.
Anonymous

It was a week before my 15th birthday. I thought I loved him but in retrospect I don't think I even knew what real love was. The teenage years are confusing enough, without all the outside influence of television and magazines telling you how great sex is. To be honest I wouldn't say I regretted it, just that at 15 - when you don't really know what you're doing - sex is not much fun. If only at that young age you could understand that sex is fantastic with the right partner and its not just about whipping your clothes off and rolling round for half an hour (or two minutes, depending on your teenage lover's experience!). Once you've done it you can't take it back and there begins a cycle of responsibility: pills, condoms, smears, checkups, pregnancy scares and many other things to boot.
Anonymous

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