10 sex myths

At the beginning of any relationship you and your chap are banging away hammer and tong all hours of the day and night. But it's only natural that, after a few months, the frequency of your sex life will diminish a little. And when it does, there's no need to feel paranoid. Remember, just because he's not shaking his willy at you every minute of the day, it doesn't mean he doesn't fancy you anymore. He's probably just tired or has something, other than sex, on his mind.

9. Erections need dealing with otherwise it's bad for him.
It's true that most of the time erections are caused by sexual arousal. But, not always. A man can have several spontaneous erections during the night, especially during REM sleep. And we all know about 'morning glory' - the erection a man has when waking up. If it were actually bad for men to not relieve an erection, we'd have a national crisis on our hands. It's not dire to leave an erection, just undesirable. And most men take themselves in hand before it gets that far.

10. Masturbating every day is a sign of sex addiction.
Given that over 90 per cent of men and 75 per cent of women masturbate, we'd be in a lot of trouble if this were a sign of sex addiction. To masturbate every day is excessive, but it's more a sign of frustration than addiction. People have different sex drives, and some people may need to relieve themselves everyday, although it's unlikely they would sustain that for any length of time. Teenagers tend to masturbate three to four times a week, whereas adults only manage a bit of self-loving once or twice a week.

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