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The great sex workshop - week four
If you have never thought about your own sexual fantasies, this is your chance. Get out your Love Diary and set aside some time to do the following this week: First, write down a list of memories that you can use as sexual fantasies. Use images of real-life alluring men that have rung your bell, or movie stars you've seen in roles that you drooled over. If you can't think of anything like that, describe your perfect fantasy partner - smooth, muscular body, deep voice, sexy smell, dreamy eyes and sense of humour. Next, write down all the things that you'd like to fantasise about doing with this partner. Once you have these lists in place, re-read them and fill your mind with new ideas.
If you are really daring, invite your partner to do this same exercise, and share what you write. Be careful not to hurt each other by spending an inordinate amount of time focusing on other people or on the qualities that turn you on that you know your lover will never match. Identifying fantasies, talking about them and then testing the waters to try new things will add sparkle to your nights. Be open-minded and work with your partner to reach a compromise if you begin acting out each other's fantasies. Enrich your relationship by enlarging your mind's capacity for creative fantasy and watch how your intimate world may blossom.
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