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Are you ready for sex?

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The problem-solving guide

1. You can't orgasm. Relax - most women don't orgasm through penetration alone; you need some stimulation on your clitoris. And the first time with any man may not be the right occasion for him to be trying to find that perfect combination that will bring you to climax. The secret here is not to panic - but, equally, not to assume that sex has to be all about penetration, as your man may assume it is. So after the first time together, start experimenting with different kinds of lovemaking.

2. You don't enjoy it. There's a difference between not climaxing and not enjoying sex at all. If you're really turned off, then either this is the wrong partner for you or he's the right partner using the wrong techniques. Most women need a good half hour of the right sort of stimulation to get ready for sex - and this varies from woman to woman. So don't panic if you don't enjoy yourself: given time and practice, sex will certainly get better.

3. He climaxes too quickly. If it's his first time too, he may not be able to control himself and may climax very quickly, or even before he enters you. Don't worry -and don't give him a hard time as it can happen to anyone. Instead, tell him how flattered you are that he couldn't control himself, wait a while and try again.

4. Afterwards is a disappointment. Men's hormones tend to dip after sex, so he may simply want to rest and sleep and that can make you feel unloved and unwanted. Your best bet is to snuggle up and doze - he'll almost certainly want to cuddle and talk more later. If he simply rolls off you and starts getting dressed, this is a seriously bad sign. What you deserve in a partner is someone who makes you feel good after you've made love.

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