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Getting him to meet your desires

by Dr Patti Britton

question
Dear Dr Patti
Lately I have been dating a new man, and when we make love I simply can't get him to go anywhere near my nipples, which really turns me on. I think I even need to have them touched in this way so that I can get into sex. Is there something wrong with me?
A

answer
Dear A
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Nipples are richly endowed with nerve endings and contribute to sexual arousal in most women. The breasts are a distinct part of female sexual anatomy and are not just objects to be admired or commercialised. During arousal, the nipples become erect and darker in colour.

Because your nipples are particularly sensitive and need some form of manipulation during foreplay, it's not only your right but also your responsibility to tell your new partner that this is something important to you. Most men want to please their partner, so telling him what stimulates you ought to be enough to get him doing it. If he is unconcerned about your needs, then you have more serious problems than meets the nipples.

If words don't feel right, you might guide his hand or mouth towards the desired place. If he will not provide you with the touch you are longing for, then touching your nipples with your own fingers might provide the stimulation you need.

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