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Dear Dr Patti
Do you have any suggestions for a 34-year-old virgin who is afraid of sex, but has just found the right man to start a relationship with?
A
Congratulations! I want to start by saying, 'It's about time!' so let's get you prepared. Your comment about your fear regarding sex makes me think you suffered greatly as a child or adolescent girl. Those feelings and memories need to be brought out into the open before you can freely soar in the present, and I think counselling could help.
Before you can become sexually involved with Mr Right, you must first know your own body and its responses. This is usually discovered through masturbation.
You and your partner will need to enter into this relationship slowly, gently and carefully. Honesty is also very important. Tell your partner that he's your 'first' as he may feel honoured and even excited that he's the one. Start simply, perhaps by sensually massaging one another, until you feel comfortable with his body. Do not go for penetration straight away. Wait until you trust each other physically and emotionally and your body says 'yes'.
By the way, losing your virginity may cause a sharp pain and even a little bleeding. Don't panic - this shouldn't happen next time.
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