Seven steps to more sensual sex

Think about what is in your bedroom that reminds you of sex, it's often the small touches that make a difference. Warm vibrant colours like reds, pinks and oranges enhance sensuality.

Create a setting that you would like to make love in. Replace tinny radios, fluffy toys and mangy blankets with arousing scents such as lavender, rose and ylang ylang to stimulate the senses. Your bedroom should relax you and help you to feel aroused - and sensually switched on.

Lastly, reposition the mirror to get a more exciting view.

7 Keep talking
Why is it hard to discuss sex with our partners? Usually, it's because of repressions - the nagging sense that sex is a bit secretive and should be kept 'sectioned off' from the rest of who we are.

By getting into a 'habit' of talking to each other during sex, you are breaking down repressive barriers and paving the way for more expressive and intimate pleasure.

Talking doesn't mean giving each other a running commentary of their performance - although that can be a great way to learn what each other likes!

For more tips on passionate, loving sex, check out the latest DVD from The Lovers' Guide; Satisfaction Guaranteed - 7 Secrets to a Passionate Love Life presented by Tracey Cox (presenter of C4's Sex Inspectors and BBC's 'Would Like To Meet').

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