Techniques for mind-blowing sex

Focus on foreplay
Many women need to have their breasts or nipples touched to become aroused. Have your lover include this in your prelude to sex, to ignite your energies. Most women report that they need to be kissed before feeling sexual. Perhaps that's because for some women kissing feels more intimate than sexual intercourse and turns on the emotional fountain. In some ancient lovemaking traditions, passionate kissing is carried out only with those you truly love and trust. So get him to breathe into your breathing rhythm with you while you explore each other's mouths. Learn to look into each other’s eyes for that connection while you penetrate and probe the mouth with your tongue and breath. If your man is an 'air kisser,' teach him how to really kiss.

Oral sex is a valid sexual exchange, of course. But for most women it is not foreplay, whatever their male partners may say. Most women require foreplay in a variety of ways — deep kissing, passionate breathing together, eye contact while caressing and being caressed, massage and fondling, licking and sucking of breasts and nipples. But oral sex is another level for most women. When a woman's genitals are stimulated properly she can achieve her first orgasm, which I highly recommend before the penis goes anywhere near her vagina.

Know thy genitals
Renowned sex educator Betty Dodson advises that all women and men should spend time learning about their own anatomy. By sitting naked in front of a mirror and visually exploring your genital region, you will find answers to your questions about how you look and maybe how and why you do or don't work to your sexual capacity. Notice where your clitoris is; how the hood covers it; how your clitoral shaft protrudes; how low the opening to your vagina sits; whether your outer lips are fatty and cover you up or whether you bare all to the wind.

Many women who have trouble getting to their single or multiple orgasms are those with a delicate, perhaps barely noticeable, clitoral hood or covering. If so, some may have shut down their sexual reactions to being touched there, as a way to dampen the continual sensations they originally felt as girls or young women. Just as men must learn to ignore pressure from clothes rubbing against their crotch, girls also learn to turn on or off according to what's necessary. By learning to re-associate that part of the body with pleasure, women can reach their orgasmic potential.