Three in a bed

They probably would have asked them to do it again while they watched. This is, after all, one of the top ten male fantasies. But ask any man if he would want a threesome with a man and a woman and he’ll quickly try to replace the man with another woman. There’s nothing like a threesome to bring out one’s worst insecurities. So unless you are a grounded, unpossessive creature, leave well alone.

‘For me, sex with two men is much more fulfilling than one,’ says Joanna, 26, who likes doubling her fun. ‘When one gets tired, the other one can continue. Also, for some reason, when two men are with a woman they give a huge amount of attention. It’s like they become your sex slaves in a way they aren’t when they come alone.’ Joanna’s ultimate high is to be penetrated anally and vaginally at the same time by her two-pack. ‘If that’s what you’re into, then one is never going to be enough. I like that feeling of being sandwiched between two gorgeous men. And believe me, they are all into it.’

Threesomes offer a smorgasbord of sexual permutations, limited only by a lack of imagination. For example, you could bring a touch of mystery into a threesome by remaining blindfolded, while you have sex with your partner and a silent ‘stranger’. When mystery man or woman slips away, you are still not aware of their identity. The post-coital dreads occur when you realise it could be your dentist.

Three times one can boost a flagging, established relationship (as long as you are both consenting), and it can offer a sexual camaraderie that is rarely achieved in a one-to-one.

A spontaneous multi-dimensional bonk can feel like a real adventure. My best ones have occurred while travelling. But as a woman, entering into a threesome with two male strangers, you must be able to feel safe. Oh, and coloured condoms are a good idea. That way you can spot the difference.

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