Seven days of sex

First, set the kitchen timer or alarm. After that, whoever is the 'doer' must do anything the 'doee' asks for – kisses, oral sex, gazing into eyes, sensual massage and touching, licking or full on sex. The only rules are that the 'doee' mustn't ask for anything they know the 'doer' objects to. Apart from that, the 'doee' gets to choose anything they want.

When the time's up, change over. By the end of the hour, if you're not exhausted, have another round. Be spontaneous and go with the mood this task has taken you into.

Day seven – bedside treats
Look to the East and copy the ancient Japanese, who kept a pillow book on the bedside to inspire different sex acts. For this final day of your sexy week, pick your favourite pillow book – I like Anne Hooper's Great Sex Guide – and choose ten of the ideas that turn you on.

Write the suggestions on ten bits of paper and take it in turns to pick them out of a hat. Then try each idea.

Aim to postpone his final orgasm – if he's able to have more than one. When he's about to come, back off and switch to another activity. But when you're both ready to climax, finish off with your favourite position, the one you both love, that always does it for you. This should bring your week to a fantastic and passionate climax.

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