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Be incredible in bed

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Tempt with tongue work

Start with a tongue bath, licking each other all over, before you get down and dirty. This will let you rediscover each other's erogenous zones - they may be different than you think. (But keep a glass of water handy, as your mouth can get very dry with this one.)

Give each other 'guided' oral sex, with one of you saying what you want, minute-by-minute, while the other obliges. If you can't find the words, let the 'doer' experiment, while the 'being done to' murmurs numbers from one to ten to show just how good it is - the aim for the doer is to keep the numbers as high as possible.

Experiment with different flavours, temperatures and textures. Cold water, warm coffee, ice cream, your favourite tipple. But beware of getting too extreme; the guideline is that if it's even slightly uncomfortable in your mouth, it'll be painful on your partner's genitals.

For added thrills, mix oral and anal. While you're licking each other, slide a clean finger slowly up behind. Check with your partner first; this is not something to do unexpectedly.

Play with positions

Teach him what you like. Work out your own three favourite positions, then tell him that tonight you're in charge. Guide him from one position to the other, planning your moves ahead of time - he can then lie back and enjoy himself!

Ring the changes. Choose your favourite position, start that way, then see where you can go with it. What happens if you reverse roles so that you rather than he are on top? What happens if you try that position standing, sitting or lying? Experiment and learn!

Start counting. Add a whole new dimension by asking your man not simply to thrust away, but to alternate slow and fast, deep and shallow. So try these patterns: five shallow thrusts followed by one medium thrust, five medium followed by one deep - nine shallow followed by one deep.

Widen your repertoire. Eastern eroticism has some lovely suggestions that aren't usually included in most Western sex manuals; Anne Hooper's Pocket Kama Sutra (Dorling Kindersley, £7.99) is a good place to start, and the book is small enough to keep under your pillow.

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