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The secret of tantric sex
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Tantric games
One of my favourite exercises is the yin-yang game, where each partner tries to fulfil the other's wishes for an agreed period of time. You could ask your lover for a total body massage or a 'g-spot massage', giving him feedback so that he can extend his sexual expertise. You can use this exercise as a safe way of exploring your sexual fantasies, or simply as an opportunity to voice your own desires as they arise - something that can be hard for women to feel they have a right to.
If you need to reawaken your desire for your partner, try shaking your bum vigorously to some lively music to stimulate the energy in your pelvis.
Before tantric sex it's good to energise your body through dance or movement and then allow yourself to relax into a dynamic state of meditation. Allow your breathing to slow and harmonise together. Sit facing each other as you open your heart and connect, before touching your partner in an erotic way.
For women, the best way to stimulate sexual appetite is to spend much more time on foreplay than intercourse - many men forget that most women need at least half an hour pleasuring to warm up. Try the 'caressing breath' where you softly blow over your lover's naked skin, or a delicate 'erotic touch' where you tantalise the skin with the edge of a feather or your fingertips.
Penis reflexology
You can arouse your man's desire by dancing for him, or playfully exploring 'penis reflexology' - the idea that there are different zones along his penis which correlate with the subtle energy coursing through his body. Gently massage the back of his penis from the base up towards the tip, while you cradle his scrotum with your other hand. Make small circular motions, as your partner breathes slowly and relaxes into the unexpected sensations.
You can prepare for tantric sex now, even if you're not in a relationship.
Making a habit of meditating enables you to learn to switch off your mind and let go. Surrendering is important to fully receive sexual pleasure. A good technique to master alone is relaxing into an orgasm while pleasuring yourself. Instead of tensing your thighs and muscles to achieve orgasm, bring yourself to the edge, let go and melt into the orgasm. Relaxing helps the waves of pleasure spread throughout your being.
Tantric games
One of my favourite exercises is the yin-yang game, where each partner tries to fulfil the other's wishes for an agreed period of time. You could ask your lover for a total body massage or a 'g-spot massage', giving him feedback so that he can extend his sexual expertise. You can use this exercise as a safe way of exploring your sexual fantasies, or simply as an opportunity to voice your own desires as they arise - something that can be hard for women to feel they have a right to.
If you need to reawaken your desire for your partner, try shaking your bum vigorously to some lively music to stimulate the energy in your pelvis.
Before tantric sex it's good to energise your body through dance or movement and then allow yourself to relax into a dynamic state of meditation. Allow your breathing to slow and harmonise together. Sit facing each other as you open your heart and connect, before touching your partner in an erotic way.
For women, the best way to stimulate sexual appetite is to spend much more time on foreplay than intercourse - many men forget that most women need at least half an hour pleasuring to warm up. Try the 'caressing breath' where you softly blow over your lover's naked skin, or a delicate 'erotic touch' where you tantalise the skin with the edge of a feather or your fingertips.
Penis reflexology
You can arouse your man's desire by dancing for him, or playfully exploring 'penis reflexology' - the idea that there are different zones along his penis which correlate with the subtle energy coursing through his body. Gently massage the back of his penis from the base up towards the tip, while you cradle his scrotum with your other hand. Make small circular motions, as your partner breathes slowly and relaxes into the unexpected sensations.
You can prepare for tantric sex now, even if you're not in a relationship.
Making a habit of meditating enables you to learn to switch off your mind and let go. Surrendering is important to fully receive sexual pleasure. A good technique to master alone is relaxing into an orgasm while pleasuring yourself. Instead of tensing your thighs and muscles to achieve orgasm, bring yourself to the edge, let go and melt into the orgasm. Relaxing helps the waves of pleasure spread throughout your being.
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