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How to be his best sex ever

Want to be the best lover your guy has ever had? It's simple. All you need to do is understand the male sexual psyche - and not judge him for it

I recently attended an art exhibition in London that traced the representation of sex in art through the ages. Part of the exhibition included a series of photographs that aimed to capture the essence of various couples' relationships and sex lives.

The images were both graphic and private: intensely tender and raw sexual moments. The first series was based on a straight couple. The second was based on a male homosexual couple.

What struck me immediately was the difference in their sex lives. The gay guys didn't just appear to have more sex than the straight couple, their sex life also had extraordinary variety; different positions, locations, props, tender sex and wild sex. Their sex life beat the straight couple's sex life hands down.

Why? Because it's two men. A gay guy knows his partner won't judge him because two men think of sex in the same way. Neither one sees anything wrong in what they're doing! The male sex drive is more primitive than the female sex drive, so two men together feel totally secure in letting loose.

The lesson to be learned as a straight girl? The only thing standing in the way of you having a tender, wild, wonderful, exciting sex life is your attitude.

Normal vs naughty

In today's society, there's a very clear line drawn between 'normal' and 'naughty'. This seems to be the definition: If everyone does it, no matter what 'it' is, 'it' is 'normal.' If only a few people do it, no matter what 'it' is, 'it' is not 'normal.'

Rubbish! Take a leaf out of the homosexual handbook and refuse to live by such archaic rules. The next time your partner suggests something unusual, fight your knee-jerk reaction to say no. Consider why you want to reject it: Is it because it's just something you don't hear other people say they're doing? Is that what scares you? If so, then ask yourself if trying his suggestion will hurt either one of you physically or emotionally: Is there any danger?

If not, then what's the problem? Be one of the few women to embrace this concept and you'll not only be the best lover he's ever had, you'll probably be the best he ever will have.

Men are visual, so excite his eyes

Men's sexual arousal is dependent on what they see, which makes visual excitement his number one turn-on. And the evidence is in the emails I get from male readers: 'Why won't she... watch porn/shave her pubic hair/wear sexy clothes/leave her shoes on/watch us having sex in a mirror/masturbate for me/go out without underwear on?' He needs electric shocks to his penis. Give him something he's not used to seeing or doing and you'll make his day.

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