Sexy alternatives to a romantic evening

Make fantasies happen

If you are planning a romantic surprise, ditch the dinner date and try and fulfil his erotic fantasies instead. But Tracey recommends that you make sure you pitch your treat without putting your relationship at risk.

'Tailor your surprise to something you know they want to try. Get a sense of him. If he fancies a threesome, dial in a phone-sex worker on the line, or drop into a swinger?s club for an hour to get a flavour.'

Do something rudely romantic

'Tying someone up can be rude and romantic. Before you get to the saucy bits, spend a lot of time kissing and stroking your partner. This foreplay can be incredibly romantic and sexy.'

The cup of love

Try this romantic toast with a difference, and it has to be with bubbles. Tracey Cox says: 'Try the champagne kiss. Put champagne in your mouth and kiss your partner unexpectedly. Then, as you kiss, release a little bit of your drink at a time into their mouth. Add strawberries to champagne for a sensual sensation.'

Make a romantic break a wild weekend

'Instead of a cliched weekend like Paris or Florence, go edgy. Book Amsterdam and get down to the Red Light District or visit a lap dancing bar in Prague. Pop to a city with a sex museum, like New York or Stockholm, and behave like you are having an affair on limited time. Stay out all night, sleep all day and think erotic,' says Tracey.

Swap romantic words for dirty talk

Scribbling sweet nothings on a card or note can be wildly romantic but 'write dirty' and you'll cause a sensational stir.

Tracey says: 'Write down your erotic fantasy on a card and tailor it to your partner. Make spanking fantasies a reality! Replace the words 'I love you' with 'I lust AFTER you.'

Switch romantic roles

'Buy HIM flowers instead. Pick him something simple and cool and you will look strong and sexy,' says Tracey.