What do those sex dreams really mean?

1. Having sex with someone you don't fancy

It's always surprising when you have a sex dream about someone you don't fancy in waking life. Rest assured it doesn't mean you've taken a liking to a bullying colleague, your creepy boss, or whoever else it was you dreamt of.

Very often, these dreams represent a power struggle with the person in your dream. Having sex with them is a symbolic way of 'burying the hatchet with them'. Your dream's telling you that you'd rather get on with them.

They can also symbolise that you lack confidence compared to this person. Such sex dreams will be accompanied by dream images where that person is completely in charge of the sex.

Such a dream - accompanied by pleasurable feelings - can symbolise your inner feeling that you admire this person in some way. You may not fancy them in real life but you might think they've got fantastic skills or are really great at their job. This is expressed through sexual images.

Of course if you have a dream about rampant sex with a hot colleague that you do fancy in waking life, it's simply a wish fulfilment sex dream.

2. Having group sex

Having a dream about group sex doesn't mean you're dying to become a swinger! However, such sex dreams do tend to symbolise one of two things: if accompanied by a feeling of pleasure then your dream's signalling to you that, deep down, you feel your sex life has stagnated and you're going through a phase where you'd like to be more experimental.

Or if accompanied by an anxious feeling, they can symbolise that you feel pressured in your sex life by your partner to do things you don't want to do. That feeling of pressure is expressed by such a dream where you feel unable to resist the group sex.

3. Having sex with your ex

Having sex with an ex-partner in your dreams is very common. But of course it can be troubling if you're in a new relationship and you have a raunchy dream about your ex.

If, in such a dream, you're discovered by your present partner, having sex with your ex, this is likely to symbolise you do harbour fond feelings for your ex. Your sleeping mind has you discovered by your present partner as a 'warning' that you need to deal with such feelings.

If you're having sex with your ex, but you're not discovered by your present partner, such a dream is likely to symbolise a sense that you're looking for or want comfort. Dreaming of someone who was once in your life can show that you long to have a familiar, comfortable feeling in your present life.

When you really need to start worrying is if you have recurring sex dreams about your ex. This is your subconscious mind trying to tell you that you haven't healed from this relationship and need to sort it out.

Or that you have strong longings for your ex - and again you need to sort it out if there's something stopping you two from getting back together (like he's in a new relationship).

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