Dear Dr Patti
For the past nine months my boyfriend and I have enjoyed a wonderful sexual relationship. I am 43 years old, and until I met this man I did not know what an orgasm was, but now that has changed dramatically. He has always been able to bring me to multiple orgasms. We have experimented with sex aids and have found them extremely pleasurable. Now that we have added vibrators to our lovemaking, my multiple orgasms have turned into one long, continuous, intense orgasm lasting ten to 15 minutes, or as long as my boyfriend continues stimulating me. It does not let up until my boyfriend penetrates me for one final peak. Is it normal to have orgasms that last this long?
J

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Dear J
You’re a lucky woman! I can't tell you how often women who come to me for advice are seeking the endless orgasm, or even just a taste of what that would be like. It seems that you and your boyfriend have discovered the sexual fountain of youth.

As for the use of vibrators to perpetuate that orgasmic release, you have unlocked one of the keys for sexual success. Often a woman will require direct or indirect clitoral stimulation to become highly aroused. I often recommend her using an electric massaging wand and if she also uses an internal device, such as a vibrating wand or penis-shaped object inside her vagina, she can stimulate herself to reach heights untold. Men can become frightened or intimidated by the intense response women may have with sex aids. I applaud his confidence in permitting your lovemaking to be enhanced with a non-human, battery-operated, moving part.

Although there may be statistical norms for how long an orgasm can or should last, what's more important is that yours are long lasting without causing pain or harm. If you cease feeling the enjoyment of an extended foray into ecstasy, then chill it. As you probably already know, the truth is that women have the capacity to go into multiple rounds of orgasms, making them seem insatiable. In fact, your sense of satisfaction is much more determined by how your inner self is feeling than when your genitals scream, ‘Enough!’ So monitor your whole body and its response. Feel these good sensations throughout the process, and give yourself the green light for unlimited bliss.

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