Want to be unforgettable in bed?

Now you're going to let him in on everything you've learned (I can hear the gulps from here). The same girl who'll happily bring herself to climax on her own often balks at doing it in front of a lover or admitting exactly what she's been up to when he wasn't around. But force yourself out of your comfort zone, and you might be surprised how easy it is once you start sharing (and the results will more than compensate for any ounce of embarrassment, I promise you). Besides, any man who isn't totally impressed by your 'research' isn't worth having as a partner anyway.

Start by telling him you've got a surprise: While he was out with his friends/watching telly/working, you decided to do a little sexual exploring. Avoid making him feel threatened ('Are you saying I'm not doing it right?') by saying you read about how complex the female sexual response system is and wanted to find out how well you knew yours. If he's a confident, comfortable lover, he'll be fascinated and want to hear all about it and probably want to join your experiment right then and there. Ideally, you'd both then head for the bedroom, hand in hand. Give him your notebook and run through all the information you've compiled. You get an A+ if you demonstrate what you'd written down and an A+ if you let him put his hand on top of yours to learn how to imitate the way you're stimulating yourself.

Armed with a blueprint on how to give you an orgasm every single time, it's now up to the two of you to work out ways to introduce these techniques during intercourse and oral sex. Yes, you might find that it feels clinical and decidedly unsexy at first. But remember, these initial sex sessions aren't meant to be the steamiest you've ever had - just the most informative. Once he's got the hang of it (and you), you've effectively set yourselves up for ridiculously raunchy sex for the lifetime of your relationship.

Now check out my Masturbation Memoir, a little bit about my own experience with this subject matter!