20 tips to transform your sex life

1. Wait until you're more turned on before he penetrates. Often a man goes in too quickly, before you're ready. Spend more time on foreplay and you're more likely to come.

2. Learn how to stimulate your clitoris if you don't already know. Then slide your hand down to add extra stimulation while you're having intercourse.

3. Go on top with him on his back and you straddling him so you or he can stimulate your clitoris and breasts.

4. Try the CAT (Coital Alignment Technique) position. Start in the missionary position with his legs between yours - then get him to move up your body so that the base of his penis rubs against your clitoris with every movement. Magic!

5. Have you located your G-spot? It's just inside the front wall of your vagina - try finding it with a finger. If he can stimulate it when he enters you - love-making positions from behind are best - it could be the earth will move.

So tonight, in bed...

1. Watch a sexy video, not one of the tacky pornographic variety, just a well made erotic film like Last Tango in Paris or 9 = Weeks.

2. Perform a striptease for your man. Set the scene with music, and put on the sexy underwear complete with suspenders. Undress teasingly and don't show too much skin one go. Most of all, make him wait. Don't let him touch you until you say so.

3. Try oral sex with a fizz. Take a mouthful of champagne and let the bubbles tickle him while you get down to business. Don't be left out though, get him to do the same for you.

4. Have sex in a new position, one you've never tried. For inspiration, check out the Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides, (Vermilion, £14.99.

5. Experiment with ice cubes. Try sliding them over each other's bodies and licking away the melting water, kissing with one, passing from them mouth to mouth ... whatever floats your boat!