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4 Ways to End Your Sexual Dry Spell

by Tracey Cox
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You don't really like men

'Who me? I love men!' I can hear you exclaiming it from here. I don't doubt that lots of your best friends are men and that you adore your brother. But these are men you know and trust. All it takes is a few bad experiences - a lover in your past who treated you badly, the guy you thought was really going to come through then didn't call or simply a series of disappointments - and before you know it, your core trust in men falters. You start expecting the worst in them, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. You think you're radiating cool confidence, but really you're sending toxic waves of suspicion and aggression designed to protect you against further hurt.

If you treat men as the enemy, they will behave like the enemy. However, if instead you approach every guy with an open mind and assume he's a good person until proven otherwise, you'll bring out the best in him. Save the 'I don't put up with that' speeches until he actually does something you won't put up with. Then say your peace in a calm, no-nonsense voice without histrionics. If you put yourself back in the power position, you'll have nothing to fear. Realise this: Start liking men once again and they'll like you back. It's that simple.



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