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Cramping my style
Dear Dr Patti
During sex, usually before or during an orgasm, I get cramps in my legs. I am always in the 'missionary' position when this happens and am wondering whether this is normal. Could it be the position or am I lacking something in my diet? As you can imagine, this puts quite a damper on things.
J
I can well imagine how your problem has cramped your style. If your partner is heavy that could be a contributing factor. Also, spending long periods of time during sex in the missionary position can cause problems. Whatever it is you are doing, and whoever you’re doing it with, it's time to alter your position.
First, I suggest that you experiment with other positions. For example, you could try sitting astride his body and facing downward, in the classic woman-on-top position. This position is known to give a women a sense of being in control, which is something that many women find alien, and can be quite arousing and fulfilling. Emotionally, this position can be particularly intimate, as it gives you a chance to look directly into each other's eyes.
Secondly, perhaps your diet needs checking. As always, when there is anything going on during sex that produces pain, I suggest you go straight to your GP and get it checked out. Perhaps you are using a birth control method that's interfering with your natural functioning and causing cramping. Zinc deficiency can also cause cramping, as can insufficient water. I suggest you take zinc supplements, eat foods containing zinc, such as oysters, and drink plenty of pure drinking water.
Finally, I believe that sex is about energy and flow. Perhaps you are holding your body so tightly during sex that you are literally constricting your blood and energy patterns. Concentrate on loosening up whenever you can. Relax those legs as much as possible during the next round of lovemaking and imagine yourself floating freely like a cloud.
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