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4. Relax, don't do it
Once upon a time it was difficult for women to have sex outside of the limits imposed by men. But now that we can protect ourselves from disease and pregnancy it seems like sex is almost compulsory.
This removes some of the desire to actually do it, of course, since forbidden things are always more tempting. Perhaps this is why one popular form of therapy for couples with sex problems is to tell them to stop having sex. If it isn't quite the fun it used to be for you and your partner, spend a week abstaining. The chances are you will not only start to get your appetite back - you may also learn some new and interesting things about each other. It will help make your life sexier in the long run.
5. Love yourself more
• Caring for yourself gives you the confidence to choose a better sex life.
• Looking good conveys the message that you enjoy your body and cherish it - and that you expect others to do the same.
We all walk around wearing invisible labels and price tags, which most other human beings can clearly read. If your label says: 'Human football, six careless owners. Going cheap', guess what sort of attention you are going to attract? The trouble is, you can't arbitrarily repackage yourself. It's not that easy. If you don't believe in the new label you stick on yourself, the glue won't work. People who like themselves hang out with others who like them. People who don't will look for the kind of company that confirms their self-image.
People who like themselves get the best things in life - sex included. So make friends with yourself, treat yourself well, and see what happens.
6. Physically fit
• People who are in good shape have more choices when it comes to sex.
• Sex is better when you're fit enough to keep it up for longer.
We are genetically programmed to look for partners who are healthy enough to produce the next generation. For thousands of years, the strongest men attracted the most fertile-looking women, and the women with the biggest hips and boobs and smallest waists attracted the most powerful men. In the present day, physical strength isn't as important for child rearing. But it is essential for recreational sex. If your blood pressure is low, your muscle tone is high and you've got stamina, sex is going to be better than if you are breathless from climbing the stairs to the bedroom.
4. Relax, don't do it
Once upon a time it was difficult for women to have sex outside of the limits imposed by men. But now that we can protect ourselves from disease and pregnancy it seems like sex is almost compulsory.
This removes some of the desire to actually do it, of course, since forbidden things are always more tempting. Perhaps this is why one popular form of therapy for couples with sex problems is to tell them to stop having sex. If it isn't quite the fun it used to be for you and your partner, spend a week abstaining. The chances are you will not only start to get your appetite back - you may also learn some new and interesting things about each other. It will help make your life sexier in the long run.
5. Love yourself more
• Caring for yourself gives you the confidence to choose a better sex life.
• Looking good conveys the message that you enjoy your body and cherish it - and that you expect others to do the same.
We all walk around wearing invisible labels and price tags, which most other human beings can clearly read. If your label says: 'Human football, six careless owners. Going cheap', guess what sort of attention you are going to attract? The trouble is, you can't arbitrarily repackage yourself. It's not that easy. If you don't believe in the new label you stick on yourself, the glue won't work. People who like themselves hang out with others who like them. People who don't will look for the kind of company that confirms their self-image.
People who like themselves get the best things in life - sex included. So make friends with yourself, treat yourself well, and see what happens.
6. Physically fit
• People who are in good shape have more choices when it comes to sex.
• Sex is better when you're fit enough to keep it up for longer.
We are genetically programmed to look for partners who are healthy enough to produce the next generation. For thousands of years, the strongest men attracted the most fertile-looking women, and the women with the biggest hips and boobs and smallest waists attracted the most powerful men. In the present day, physical strength isn't as important for child rearing. But it is essential for recreational sex. If your blood pressure is low, your muscle tone is high and you've got stamina, sex is going to be better than if you are breathless from climbing the stairs to the bedroom.
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