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Living out the top 3 female fantasies

by Tracey Cox

Sex life feeling a bit stale? Well, there's one sexual organ most people neglect: the brain. And it's your passport back to Sexual Nirvana. Literally millions of us secretly use fantasies during masturbation, and some of us use them to achieve orgasm during sex. So why not own up to your favourites and act them out with your partner for what could be the lustiest sex you've had in years?

Fantasy 1: He's a virgin - and you're Mrs. Robinson
Why it appeals to you: It's a power game and 'forbidden' sex for both parties, which is always a guaranteed libido-lifter. What you'll need: A 'sexy secretary' outfit works for this one: a long pencil skirt, shirt unbuttoned to show off a push-up bra, stockings and high heels.
The action plan:
The trick to this one is to move very slowly at first. You're seducing him, and he's struggling - torn between ripping off your clothes and worrying about the consequences. (What will his mum say if she finds out? Is she really seducing him or is he reading too much into it?) Say you're going to make a drink for each of you, then lead him into the lounge with your drinks. He sits on the sofa, you sit on a chair opposite, crossing your legs and hitching your skirt up high. He's not sure where to look. Make general chit-chat (the sort of stuff you'd ask your son's friend, if you have/had a teenager), then take the conversation to another - saucier - level. Tell him you don't think your husband finds you attractive anymore. Ask him, Does he think you're attractive? What bits? Why? Let him squirm with embarrassment as he tries to be diplomatic - and tries to hide his erection.

At that point you say, You seem a little uncomfortable and move from the chair to sit beside him on the couch. Loosen the first two buttons of his shirt and rub the back of your hand against his exposed chest saying, Such soft skin. So unlike my husband's. As he squirms, undo the top few buttons of your shirt, take his hand and place it on your breast. Ask him if he likes that.

In between your lurid requests and actions, keep making small talk. Ask him if he's ever made love to a woman before. He'll squeak out a no. Ask him if he'd like to make love to you, and tell him it's okay - you won't tell. Ask him to take off your top and your bra. Tell him to touch your breasts and instruct him on how you like to be touched. Moan and sigh, but remember: You're still the grown-up - so not too out of control. Ask him to stand up in front of you and unzip his trousers. Admire his body, compliment it, say how hard it is, then give him exquisitely tortuous oral sex - stopping just short of orgasm.

Undress yourself theatrically while maintaining eye contact. Let his eyes caress your body, but don't let him touch you. Leave on your high heels and stockings. Pose provocatively and caress your curves. Ask him if he likes what he sees and if he wants to touch you. Then undress him, kissing each bit of his flesh as it becomes exposed. When you're both naked, lead him to the bed, then explain exactly how to make a woman scream in ecstasy. Each touch, kiss, fondle and thrust is his very first, remember. The fantasy ends when he completely loses control - which should happen within about, ohhh, three minutes if you've played your part properly!