How to have more orgasms... more quickly

What type of orgasm are you aiming for?

If it's clitoral, choose a position where one of you can easily reach your clitoris to stimulate it with your fingers (or better yet, hold a small vibrator there). It's not cheating; it's simply acknowledging that's how our bodies work! If it's a front wall (G-spot) orgasm you want, try a a rear-entry sex position or a you-on-top sex position so his penis is angled the right way. Spread your vaginal lips once he's inside and press them against him to get maximum friction on your clitoris and the area surrounding the urethra. There's plenty of evidence to prove this area is also packed with nerve endings.

How he thrusts is also incredibly important: The traditional "jack hammer" style, deep, repetitive in-and-out thrusting, is about as effective as using a fork to spread butter. Instead, get him to grind his pelvis and move in circles, rather than up and down. The aim is to keep as much of the base of his penis in contact with the whole of the vulva as consistently as possible. Tell him to keep thrusting in short and shallow motions, rather than deep and fast.

Use different stimulation for each orgasm.

You have a better chance of having more than one orgasm if it's via a different means. Alternate oral sex with intercourse with digital stimulation. (By "digital stimulation" I mean "finger stimulation," rather than digital as in television, but while we're on the topic, a bit of porn playing in the background could be just what you need!) If he's too close to orgasm, change the technique you're using. Get him to give you oral sex until he feels more in control.

Breathe.

How you breathe is important, though not all experts agree on the best method! Some say that holding your breath when you orgasm heightens the sensation. Others say that holding your breath forces oxygen-giving blood to flow toward your brain and away from your genitals. Continuing to breathe deeply through orgasm is recommended by spiritual sex devotees who claim deep breathing makes it more likely for you to have a second one. While yet more experts say if you want to feel your orgasm over a wider area, start with regular deep breaths and then start panting just before orgasm. Who's right? It's about what works for you, so give them all a try!

Pay attention to what your body does just before orgasm.

Knowing your orgasm triggers is incredibly helpful because, the more your brain travels a certain path neurologically, the more effortless it becomes. The more signposts of impending orgasm your brain can recognize, the easier it will trigger the orgasmic response. Focus on what you naturally do on approach to orgasm, then exaggerate it. If you go quiet and hold your breath, try doing that the next time you're about to climax (though possibly not for terribly long!). If you notice you tense your toes, do that. Get to the point where your brain thinks, Aha! She's holding her breath and flexing her toes, which means she wants to orgasm. Better get cracking then and make it happen! And don't forget to make noise. It sounds and feels sexy, and a sexy environment can be very persuasive to your body.